Emergency Contacts

Last week, my son went across the world to study and my husband had major surgery. These events happened within days of each other.

I wanted to just stay in bed. There was this general feeling of sadness…like something was off. I couldn’t get a handle on everything going on around me.

So I did something remarkably out of character.

When people called to check on me, I didn’t say I was fine. I actually said, “I’m sad.” These people didn’t dismiss the feeling, but they just listened. It felt good to be heard.

When people called and asked if I needed anything, I said, “Yes, would you mind driving Elena to the hospital?” and “Yes, could you please find me a counter-height chair?” Each request was granted without hesitation.

It has always been hard for me to ask for help because I didn’t want to be a burden.  But, the last couple of days, I called on a small team of people who have assembled around my life waiting to help out, and I found that they were happy to help me.

I have always been everyone’s Emergency Contact.  If someone’s kid needs to be picked up from school or something needs to be done on a work day, I am THE person to call.

This week, I found out that I had Emergency Contacts, too.  They can pretty much do anything…except read minds.

Do you struggle with reaching out to people for help?  Why is it so hard to ask?

4 thoughts on “Emergency Contacts”

  1. I struggle with that also. I usually have a sense of guilt when asking by feeling like a burden and/or I do not like the idea of not being in control. So very rarely do I tell the truth and ask. But the few times I have needed help I was met with nothing but eagerness and willingness to assist. I’m glad the shoe was on the other foot for you this time and you did ask for help. It just goes to show that your contacts are willing to help you but you have to let your guard down and ask for it sometimes! #icanreadminds #topsecret

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