Last week, my son went across the world to study and my husband had major surgery. These events happened within days of each other.
I wanted to just stay in bed. There was this general feeling of sadness…like something was off. I couldn’t get a handle on everything going on around me.
So I did something remarkably out of character.
When people called to check on me, I didn’t say I was fine. I actually said, “I’m sad.” These people didn’t dismiss the feeling, but they just listened. It felt good to be heard.
When people called and asked if I needed anything, I said, “Yes, would you mind driving Elena to the hospital?” and “Yes, could you please find me a counter-height chair?” Each request was granted without hesitation.
It has always been hard for me to ask for help because I didn’t want to be a burden. But, the last couple of days, I called on a small team of people who have assembled around my life waiting to help out, and I found that they were happy to help me.
I have always been everyone’s Emergency Contact. If someone’s kid needs to be picked up from school or something needs to be done on a work day, I am THE person to call.
This week, I found out that I had Emergency Contacts, too. They can pretty much do anything…except read minds.
Do you struggle with reaching out to people for help? Why is it so hard to ask?